Why Do My Peers Hate Me?

The rejection of peer pressure hurts those applying it, as well as the one(s) being pressured. Trying to get someone to do go along with the rest of the group is important for the members of the group, especially if the activity is questionable. Not participating points out the weakness of those who do engage in the behaviour. Resisting demonstrates that not everyone agrees with the group, so it is vulnerable to some other opinion. This is unacceptable to some people, as they need the comfort of others who share their opinion to feel confident. It can be seen as a matter of control: when these individuals feel that everyone is going along with the program, it is fine. The questioning of the groups' plan may be seen as an attack on the structure of the group, the cohesive dynamic which holds the group together. This is not always to do with something illicit, but this drive is more powerful the more dangerous or risky conditions are.

So we have insecurity compounded by feeling scrutinized by peers, leading to feelings of violent retribution for exposing the underlying vulnerabilities of the group. This should be overcome by confidence, with deciding from a place of certainty and integrity, as pressuring someone(s) into doing something is obviously not in the best interests of anyone. Actions of individuals and groups should come from deliberate consensus and valid arguments, not bullheaded or ill considered desires or impulses.