Get Out of Your Own Way

People make life harder than it has to be. This is aside from all the difficulties that we inherently face such as social and economic background, intelligence, and geographic locale. Outside all the things we have no control over, not recognizing those things that one does to sabotage ones’ self in things large and small is a separate problem. Of course the first step in solving a problem is recognizing that it exists, so we need to know that we are doing this. For myself, I know that a couple of my biggest problems are procrastinating and lack of planning. Spontaneity is great, but some events do need to be organized prior to their actual occurrence. Having said that, even I know that it isn’t all there is to it; now I have to learn how to overcome these things, which I have done all my life and seem natural to me. How difficult is it for people that choose to not recognize those habits that get in their way? Some people are martyrs, others controlling, some perfectionists, and on and on. These habits, all the little behaviours that we learned along the way to deal with things in our life, some work and others do not. Too many have accepted what has developed, what has been pushed on them. A lot of people are trying to make excuses, to leave themselves blameless for the harm they do to themselves and others. We need to recognize that none of us is perfect and we can all realize what we are doing wrong and change it to our betterment and the improvement of the world around us. We need to do that for ourselves and those we care about; understand that your life can be so much better because of this. If you aren’t examining yourself and what you do, then you are just being manipulated, either by your “self” (all that makes you a unique individual-most of which you acquired from others) and anyone that knows you. Do we really have anything better to be doing with our lives than living them? It isn’t easy to find these things out and change them, to take away the seemingly automatic ‘triggers’ that determine how you react in a situation. Of course not, but after all, what worth doing is easy?